Let Life Happen

Once you know what you want in life, how do you take the next step in achieving it?

There is so much I want to do, but I struggle with what to go after first.  It can be very overwhelming. I over think it to death until I end up not doing anything at all.

Until one day when I decided to take another approach.

Instead of worrying myself with the details, I simply let go. I knew that the only person standing in my way was myself and it was time step aside.

Life is about experience. All the little moments that make up our day are special in their own way. And in today’s society everyone seems to be rushing to get to the finish line. Once they do is it really worth it if they missed the lessons along the way? After all, what is an accomplishment without the hard work that went in to achieving it?

I guess what I am saying is enjoy the journey. Be eager, but not so much that you miss the collective moments along the path that took you there.

I have come to realize that I don’t always have to be the one who figures out the order of things or the how, the where, the when or the who for that matter. Sometimes, I just need to sit back and let what I’ve already learned occur to me. I give my mind a break from over analyzing and all kinds of ideas fill my head.

That is how I decide. As the ideas come to me the one I am most excited about is the one I roll with them.

I don’t know about you, but I strongly feel that everything happens for a reason and at the right time. So it just makes sense to me that choosing the next step in any direction that gives me the highest excitement is most likely the one I am best aligned with at that time.

An analogy I like that Hicks uses is the current of the river. Do you want to swim up stream or down stream. When we are going upstream, we are swimming against that which has already been aligned for us. Where as when we are swimming downstream, we are flowing with the natural course of the river. We let go of our resistance and simply glide along with the natural order of things. And if we are conscious, truly conscious and aware of our surroundings we won’t miss the intricately laid out opportunities that lead us along our destined path.

There is great power in the NOW.  There is this great peace and appreciation hiding within quiet moments of observation. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us, so why not be grateful for today. Whatever you did today, did it give you joy? If you faced tragedy today, where you able to find your peace?

These are the choices that are presented to every one of us on any given day. They are the power we have in any given situation. Whether it be our darkest hour or our finest day. They way we remember these moments will shape us forever. They certainly have me 🙂

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Hazards of Instant Gratification

In today’s society the concept of instant gratification is running rampant!

I think we may have forgotten the true meaning of important. People are so wrapped up in themselves that perhaps they forget to take the time and effort of others in to consideration?

I get emails daily flagged as important and they are almost always not in regards to any matter of life and death. So in essence that exclamation point added to the email tells me that you feel your time is more important than mine or that of others. Demanding something be done immediately that in all reality doesn’t need to be or can not be done immediately really grinds my gears.

There are people starving, battling cancer or any other number of life threatening circumstances. In my opinion, that is what is truly important, not sending you information you should already have if you used your own time wisely to keep track of your own life!

There is a great difference between serving others and being their servant. I am more than willing to help anyone with anything in my power, but I refuse to drop everything or push the needs of others (or myself) to the wayside, just to resolve the minor need of another more demanding person. I will let you in on a little secret…the more demanding you are the less likely I am to cater to you.You know the saying, “the early bird gets the worm”? There is a reason they don’t say, “the most demanding bird gets the worm”. The louder the bird squawks at it’s dinner the less likely it will be to get what it wants.

Patience is a virtue and one that I myself am still learning to master. So I understand that it can be challenging some times. We all want what me want right now and I am no exception to that rule, but there is one difference…I am aware that the instant gratification I am seeking may not always be possible and I will grow from the experience of waiting. In time all that is meant to be will be and there can still be great appreciation in receiving gratification even when (maybe more so) it is delayed.

Our time on this earth is so precious. Why spend it sweating the small stuff? Making unrealistic demands of others for your own personal gain? Where is the growth in that?

We are here to share in this experience of life, to grow with one another and better ourselves for what is to come. Our time here is finite, let’s not waste it in a state of constant expectation, but rather in a state of appreciation for all that we have.

“Like the air you breathe, abundance in all things is available to you. Your life will simply be as good as you allow it to be.” ~ Abraham Hicks

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The Responsibility is Yours

Do you feel as if other people are always the ones messing up your positive vortex?

Abraham Hicks would say that is impossible. It is your negative expectation that is the cause. What you expect from someone it usually what you are going to receive from them. It’s like you are replying the same sad story over and over again in your mind and by doing this you are giving power to that negative vibration. Therefore pulling more and more of it to you.

“You need to forget that you don’t jive in order to jive” – Abraham Hicks

Abraham’s advice is to simply start over, to retrain your way of thinking about that person.

Get a notebook and make a list of the positive aspects of that person to help you move past the negative aspects that you keep focusing on.

Learn how to activate a different part of them in you.

If you truly care about someone, I think it is worth the time.

I find this to be very good advice, given my recent situation.

I was hurt, but that is no reason to keep replaying all the pain over and over in my mind. Justifying to myself why my feelings of disappointment are valid.

There is no room to grow from that place and chances are if someone has been in your life for a long time there is a reason they are there.

Sure relationships and friendships change over time, but it is our responsibility to adjust to them if we truly value the presence of this person in our life.

I am working, so making a list of positive aspects of this person will have to wait until later, but in the meantime I have a plan.

Each time a negative thought or recollection comes to mind about this person today, I will intentionally try to think of a positive time I had with them or a nice thing they have done for me in the past.

If I keep expecting this person to let me down or take advantage of me, they will just keep doing it because that is the vibration I am putting out.

It will be interesting to see the change in them when I begin to expect positive behavior from them rather than negative.

It’s worth a shot right?!

 

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Rockets of Desire!

I am so excited! I have been exploring the teachings of Abraham Hicks for a few months now and I finally think I am getting the hang of it. I was making it a bit too difficult at first (of ‘course I was), by actually changing every negative thought I had. I realize now that by focusing so much attention to negative behavior, I was only attracting more struggles with my negative patterns. I now realize that it is more about paying attention to your feelings and what they are telling you about any individual moment in time. It’s about recognizing what you don’t want by being aware of the source of the feelings connected to those things.

Over and over again Abraham has said “By knowing what we don’t want, we can better understand what it is that we do want”.

The main goal in all of this is to focus on that; what we do want, what makes us happy.

When this deeper realization of the law of attraction came to me, it was like someone lite a match in my head. A fire of relief trickled down my body and I felt as though I had finally found the path I had been searching for.

When I moved to Denver, I moved here on a quest to reconnect with myself. I wasn’t sure if I had ever really known who that was and it was time to find out. I had a general idea of what I wanted, but did I really know…deep down… did I truly know what my heart’s desire was? The fact that I wasn’t sure pretty much confirmed the soul searching I needed to do.

We spend so much time thinking about what we want from the view point of not having it; the lack of. But what if we shift this to a feeling of how it would feel to actually have it?

Having faith and trust that all of our dreams will come true if we only believe they will is a much more positive view point than how much happier we will be if we ever get them.

Abraham helped me learn to appreciate the moment I was in and not spend all my time worrying about what would happen next. This was a huge mind shift for me. For anyone who has followed my story, you know that from a very early age I was always worrying about what would happen next. I never knew and in many cases it was not just a small bump in the road, but a complete life changing event. I spent almost every spare moment of every day worrying about what would happen tomorrow or the next day or the next year for that matter. Sometimes I feel as though I missed a large part of my life because I was never truly present in any moment. My mind was always somewhere else. Distracted by the ‘what if’ scenarios I was playing out in my head. It’s no wonder I lost track of myself along the way.

Letting go of the resistance to what we want is the hardest part. Abolishing the belief of lack that is so ingrained in us is very challenging. We were not taught that we live in a world of abundance, but rather one of struggle and scarcity. A world where we are surrounded by good and bad, but good deeds are mostly un-noticed while tragedy holds the spotlight. We hold beliefs such as ‘nothing good ever happens to me’ or ‘I never get what I want’. It may sound silly, but I know I have thought that to myself a time or two.

Well do you know what? When we think these thoughts, we are most likely correct because that is what we believe. So strongly that we have accepted it as fact and therefore as our own reality. This is the place where we are currently vibrating and will forever continue to until we break the cycle.

How do we break the cycle?

What if every time we had a negative feeling (or thought which produces the corresponding emotion), we stopped for a moment and asked ourselves why we were feeling/thinking this way? What about that don’t we want. For example, I battle with my self esteem, so I may think to myself, “You look horrible” and I immediately feel horrible.

Why do I feel horrible? The answer to this question is usually what I don’t want; I don’t want to feel ugly or over weight.

What we do want is usually the exact opposite of that.

By doing this, I now have a better understanding of what I do want.

You can even take it a step further and ask yourself why you want this; I want to be self confident and healthy because… and go on and on until you are getting really excited about what it is that you do want and all the wonderful reasons why (not how; that’s lack) you want it, what it will feel like to have it and how satisfying it will be to achieve it.

Abraham refers to this as “launching rockets of desire!” ~ I just love that!~

Basically anything you can do to switch your thinking from a place of lack to that of fulfillment keeps you in vibrational harmony with your true self and the creative source within you.

For me, I find that it is more or less keeping myself from complaining (lol) and/or feeling/thinking negatively. I’m much more in tune with my emotions. When I feel upset about something, I don’t just go with it. I stop for a second and try to get to the root of it.

This also helps in making the best of a bad situation. Instead of focusing on how unhappy you are, look for positive things around you to focus on. The party you are at may suck, but there has to be something or someone there that has something positive to offer. Go outside and gaze at the sky if you are really desperate. In this case I guess you could leave, but you get the idea.  Find something good in the moment you are in and put your energy there.This has helped me immensely.

From my experience, the more I focus my attention on the good in my life, the less time I spend worrying about all that it is lacking.

I am thankful for this moment in time and all that surrounds me and I have faith that as long as I stay true to myself that everything will work out as it should.

Call it a sigh of relief after a lifetime of living in uncertainty.

 

 

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