A little less than a year ago I reconnected with an old friend of mine and it has turned out to be the catalyst for some necessary change in my life. A mutual friend of mine made the comment when we first started hanging out again that he had always treated me better than my own boyfriend at the time and was not surprised to see that something may be blossoming between us after all these years. Her observation at the time, not mine. There has always been chemistry between us, but it has never grown into anything more than friendship.
I was thinking about that yesterday and you know what, looking back, she is absolutely right! He has always been there for me when I needed him. Sometimes in ways I didn’t even realize.
Now before I continue, I want to make it very clear that I am not reading into any of his actions as more than what they are. We are still just friends and I am not expecting anything more than that from him. He has made it very clear where he stands and I completely respect that.
That is not what this post is about.
What it is about is the appreciation & understanding I now have for those true friends that are so hard to find and the necessary changes we sometimes need to make to our social circle as we mature in order to ensure we are receiving the level of respect we deserve.
This past year, I have stepped back from a lot of people in my life. I began to realize that the time and energy I was putting in far outweighed what I was getting in return.
It’s the little things like…
Encouraging my creative adventures & giving me that push I need sometimes to keep going.
Inspiring me to try things I’ve always been afraid to.
Supporting my decisions even if not fully in agreement with them.
Reminding me of my good qualities and why I should never settle for less or allow others to make me feel like I have no value
Opening the door for you or waiting by you at the check-out even though they are finished.
How they know you are feeling down without you saying a word and make that small gesture of kindness as a reminder that you are loved.
Remembering the things you have said or done, no matter how insignificant they may seem.
Being true to their word – That’s a biggie!!!!!!
I am so sick and tired of being disappointed by the people I care about most and somehow being made to feel that the fault is my own.
I’ve never met someone so much like me…similar yes, but not this much!
It is refreshing to know that I don’t have to be afraid to let my guard down and truly be myself. When I talk, he listens. He is not on his phone or barely paying attention. He is always present and most of all he actually cares about what I am saying, even if it is some meaningless thing I am just babbling on about.
The level of respect he treats me with has put so much in perspective for me. I know he is someone I can tell anything to without judgement (even if it’s about him haha!). He has given me the courage to stand up for myself and shown me that it is possible to be fully open and honest with someone without it all falling apart. We talk about everything, but I guess we always have really.
Our friendship is something very few may understand I think, but I don’t care.
For the first time in a very long time, I finally feel understood and genuinely cared for.
Now that is true friendship and something I wouldn’t give up for the world!