One of my intentions for this year was to be better about staying in contact with my family and friends and to hopefully reconnect with those I may have lost touch with over the years.
This past Christmas, one of my aunts decided to get the family together because it has been a really long time and I mean a really long time. Not everyone was able to make it, but those of us that did had such a great time. After dinner we all sat around and recalled stories of the past. We laughed and laughed. For anyone who has been following along or has had a chance to read my memoir, you can only imagine the stories we had to tell. We have all been through a lot in our lives and managed to turn out pretty darn well 🙂
I felt amazing (and a little sad) when I left. I don’t know how to explain it, but something about sharing space with my kin again lit a fire inside of me. It’s like I didn’t realize how much I missed them because we had all grown so far apart. Being together again seemed to erase the gaps between us. I kept thinking to myself how much I love my family and how blessed I am to have been broken from the same mold. This moment was my inspiration to be a better friend, daughter, sister, aunt, niece, cousin…you get the point.
I launched this intention on 12/26/15.
Ever since then the universe keeps sending me opportunity after opportunity to do so. I have reconnected with friends I have not spoken with since high-school and family members I thought I would never hear from again. I’ve had a nice visit to PA to see my godparents and a surprise visit from my step dad, his wife and my step brother, All of whom I have not been able to spend time with in years!
I have talked with my family more in the last two months than I have in the last 10 years! It’s amazing.
Crazy stuff will happen too, like just today I was thinking about someone and before I had a chance to contact them, I was on the phone with them through someone else and they were at the house of yet another person I had been meaning to call. It was so great!
So much of my issue before was that I simply forget, not because I don’t care, just because I have so much going on at any given time that instead of acting on something right when I think of it, I will think, “I’ll do it later” and then I forget. I have been trying to make a better effort to act on those impulses as they happen if possible.
I find, I have less to plan to do, because I just do it as it pops in my mind. And time and time again I find that I am getting more of what I need to get done than I used to. It’s very possible that all those years of over thinking may have been a bit counter productive on my part…haha
Yesterday, I thought of two people I needed to send thank you cards to and instead of putting it on a list (my normal go to), I just did it. Now it’s done and I can move on to the next thing.
Abraham Hicks talks a lot about the Art of Allowing; making peace with all things where they are. Love yourself and those around you for who you/they are in this very moment.
“It means allowing yourself to love your kids, your spouse, your friends, your family even if they don’t do what you want/think they should. It means allowing other people to make their own choices (and live out the consequential experience of those choices) for themselves.”
For example, sure maybe you would like to lose 20 lbs. Does it serve you to spend your time worrying about how that is going to happen or dwelling on the fact that you have 20 lbs to lose? I think most would agree that the answer is no. Instead try allowing yourself to be happy with who you are first. Then take the steps needed not as a remedy to fixing your situation, but rather as something you are doing to improve the great person you already are. Sounds cheesy I know, but trust me it works.
I am speaking from my own personal experience. I have about 20 lbs that I would like to lose and I used to waste a lot of thought getting down on myself about it. I made a switch in my thinking and now I don’t see it as 20lbs I need to lose in order to be happy. I have made peace with where I am and keep focused on my positive attributes. Anything I do to improve myself is because I want to do exactly that, improve myself, not fix myself.
And do you know that I go to the gym 5-6 days a week, I eat the right foods and I drink more than the amount of water I need to. That may not sound like a huge overhaul to you, but anyone that knows me, knows that I have never gone to the gym regularly and getting me to drink one glass of water a day was a challenge. For me this is a huge shift and I am enjoying every minute of it. 🙂
No one in my life is perfect and neither am I, but I love them and myself anyway. It allows me to be free to appreciate without judgement or wasted energy.
How boring the world would be if we were all perfect.